Seriously

Best First Kisses on TV: I'm really mad I can't embed this video because it's basically my top ten just out of order...and I don't watch One Tree Hill

And seriously, BEST first kiss EVER, seriously:



Other close favorites:

Carter and Abby (ER):



Damon and Elena (Vampire Diaries):




Kate and Sawyer (not the first kiss, but one of the best ones, Lost):



How Relationships should Start:
 

The Right Decision

Confession #1: I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up.
Confession #2: I don't know if switching my major was the right decision.
Confession #3: I don't know if I believe in mistakes.

It's scary when you think about every decision you've ever made and then think "what if..."  Then what?  What if I'd just stuck out my major, then I'd be a nurse in a couple years and have a set career plan.  What if I'd become a biology major, then I could be a doctor.  What if I'd transferred to Iowa State, would I be on track to work with horses as my career, would I have switched majors again.  Whatifwhatifwhatif?  I could have done anything, been anything I wanted to be. . .and still can.

The problem with these questions is that they invoke worry, fear, and doubt.  We shouldn't worry.  God has a plan, whatever we do for His glory, He will bless.

Bit of a jump here, stay with me but, are there really mistakes?  Are mistakes really something you did wrong or are they choices you made that lead you where you're supposed to go?  What is a mistake?  You learn from them (well most of you) so are they bad?  Mistakes are teachers and choices, not errors and shortcomings.  So then why worry?

The whole reason behind this post is that I was watching Grey's Anatomy yesterday and started wondering if I'd done a really stupid thing by transferring out of the nursing program, and thinking how my life might have gone in the future had I stuck with it.  I could have been a NICU nurse, I could have been a surgeon, I could have spent my life saving people.  Only today did I realize how stupid that thought process was.  I don't know what's going to happen in the future and I was MISERABLE in the nursing program; miserable to the point of severe depression.  Being a nurse was definitely not worth my health or sanity.  I can still change/save lives, I don't even have to be in the medical field for that. 

So once again I'm going to try to stop worrying and enjoy the ride.  More than that I'm going to stop second-guessing myself and start empowering myself.  If there's a career that I really, truly feel passionate about I shouldn't let the what ifs stop me from trying for it.  I (and everyone else out there) should stop leaving things up to other people. 

Stop thinking someone more important than you will change the world. A) you don't know that! B) stop devaluing yourself, you're important so be that change.

Imagine if everyone in the world tried being extraordinary what we could accomplish.

Summary: no right/wrong decisions = no mistakes, just lessons, if you learn from them you will get to where you need to be.  P.S. be extraordinary.  Fin.

Fair warning: I'm gonna rant

I was recently informed that you should never go to a man when you're looking for emotional support.  I had a very mixed reaction to this but the majority of that mix was a very pissed off feeling.  Now I realize that all the men we see on TV are actors who have scripts written by women that tell them how to act (which totally warps our ideas about men in general, but that's a rant for a different time), they're not perfect, neither are we (as women) but SERIOUSLY, they're not capable of sympathy.  I apologize in advance but that is total bullshipt!  Men cannot suck that much or be so immature that they are incapable of emotional support.  Just in case they are here are some simple rules to help them out:

1. If she comes to you crying it's because she trusts that you can make her feel better, just hold her till she stops then listen to her problems if she wants to talk about them.  Better yet, when she stops try to make her laugh or at least take her mind off of whatever upset her.
2. Don't ever laugh at her problems.
3. Don't ever call her fat.
4. If she needs space, give her space.  We all enjoy our alone time.
5. Try to get to know her.  If she's making an effort to get to know you more the least you can do is put as much effort into getting to know her too.
6. Don't be shy.
7. Be spontaneous (yes this requires thought).
8. Hold her in general, she won't break if you touch her.
9. Don't be a pretentious douche.
10. Don't Ted it up.

Now I realize women are nowhere near perfect either in the eyes of men so here are some rules for us:

1. Don't make him watch your girly shows (you're probably watching them at least partially because there's hot guys in them anyway=awkward and rude).
2. Be interested in his stuff too, the relationship isn't all about you.
3. Be willing to watch sports/guy movies.
4. Give him his bro time (you don't need to be with him every second).
5. Be a little less self-conscious (at least when you're around him), he likes you the way you are don't second-guess yourself, it's kinda like insulting his taste.
6. Be confident.
7. Contribute to conversations.
8. Be supportive.
9. Listen to him at least as much as you want him to listen to you.
10. At least OFFER to pay (do the check-dance).

Let's face it, we're never going to completely understand each other, but if we're going to be in relationships let's at least try to be what the other needs us to be.  If you can't then get out of the relationship or you're both going to end up miserable.  On that note, advice for everyone:

1. Be HONEST.  If something isn't working it's not going to get better unless you talk about it.  Don't let things fester, get them out in the open right away.

That is all.

Song of 5/20/2012

I love Sara Bareilles' music (if you haven't figured that out yet) and this is one of my new favorites, I LOVE the bluesy jazzy sound, might sing it next year, so enjoy:

Song of Some Days That I Missed (I've been busy)

I realize that it's originally a Bon Iver song, but guess what, I heard this version first and I like it, and this is my blog so I win.

You should probably just chill

Everyone gets hot-headed and impatient sometimes, when this happens you tend to look like a pretentious douche.  In order to avoid looking like a pretentious douche you might want to try these things (otherwise you may end up ingesting your waiter's saliva):

1. When the wait staff at a restaurant is being slow, look around and ask yourself "are they busy?"  Think of all the potential reasons your waiter may be slow, then think how you would feel if you were the waiter and some jerk whined to you about not being your number one priority in life.  Finally just relax and enjoy the ambiance, if you can't do that, just get up and leave, don't let the situation escalate.
2. When someone driving really slow pulls out in front of you, cutting you off, turn up your music and enjoy some "you-time."  If you're in a hurry decide that it's ok if you're a few minutes late (unless someone's dying or having a baby, then you go right ahead and blow by that sucker, just realize you may be risking a ticket/accident).
3. When some other pretentious douche is tailgating you, instead of stomping on your brakes risking an accident, simply let off the gas, coast, and lightly swerve.  Smile at him till he gets the message.  Never EVER let him bully you into speeding up, then he wins :p
4. When you're at your job and someone comes in and yells at you for anything, smile, it'll drive them nuts.  
5. When someone makes you feel small don't go cry in a corner, examine why that person is in your life.  If they're important to you then they'll understand that you're upset.  If it's a random person you'll probably never see again forget about them.  If it's your boss or someone you work with decide if the job is worth the stress.  If it happens all the time, it's time to change your situation, you're worth more than that treatment!
6. When someone looks at you like you are the strangest, most disgusting thing they've ever seen smile at them...maybe wink it'll really freak them out.
7. When someone is judging you for the music you listen to, realize you're ok with you who you are and they have no right to judge you for it.  It means they're probably more insecure than you are, pat yourself on the back and DON'T judge them back.
8. Whenever troubles come recognize all of the blessings in your life and be willing to take the bad with the good.

That's my advice for life, take it, don't take it, it's up to you.
Mostly unrelated but it made me laugh:

Because I Just Got Done with Finals:

SCHOOL'S OUT!!!!!!!!!!  WOOOOOOO!!!!!!! (I've turned into a "woo girl" hoping it wears off soon)

The Song that I thought was the $0.69 Song, but wasn't

It's still a good song, and best band name EVER:

The $0.69 Song that I LOVE

Best use if 69 cents on Amazon EVER, this song is an excellent running song!

Song of the Day

JAM OUT!!!! you know you wanna dance ;)